“Breastmilk is Best for Babies”
Breastmilk is best for babies.
It’s easy to digest, it boosts their metabolism, increases the child’s IQ and lowers risk of leukemia.
This said, the next question is – Is it the best for mommies?
But nobody asked.
I have come to discover that, apart from the positive advertising by-lines, no one ever bothered to discuss the truth about breastfeeding. Or even just to matter-of-factly outline the ABC’s of it.
A – Anxiety
B – Breastmilk; Bruises
C- Colostrum; Chills
D- Dehydration
E – Engorgement; Expressed Milk
F – Fever
down to
L- Latch on; Let-down; Lactation etc.
Perhaps as not to discourage the expecting mother. But I personally would have appreciated more honest information.
It is one of those days that I have to discover things for myself. My breast, after a day of hardly a drop, is hard rock engorged. I woke up with a tingling sensation signalling that we are ready for a let-down. I tried to dutifully express some milk and store some for the next feeding but I was too exhausted. Next thing I know I was down with a fever and was shivering madly. Coupled with migraine, dysmenorrhea and bleeding, I honestly thought this is is it – my body has finally given in.
Three lifelines flashed through my thoughts – the Bottle, the Formula, the Yaya.
I would have readily grabbed at these if not for, yes, the advertising by-line: “Breastmilk is best for babies”. And thoughts of my baby getting sick suddenly nagged at me.
No one told me either that I would be so concerned with social approval. “Konting hirap lang yan, tiis lang, ganyan talaga ang maging ina.” I personally am not of the view that any one is less of a mother if she doesn’t breastfeed. There are valid reasons for a mother to waive this I believe (best to discuss in another entry). But without agreeeing to it in principle or the mixed signals it sends, I thought of my mom’s disapproving face, clenched my teeth and waited for that excruciating latch on.
Elisabeth Hasselbeck of “The View” once said, “Nothing changes your breast the way breastfeeding does.” Apart from the difficulties of breastfeeding, she was of course talking about the aesthetic effect of breastfeeding, which essentially is none.
Brooke Shields I think said it best when she recounted her daughter’s reaction upon seeing her breasts – “Mommy, why are they uneven?”
Cute. From a girl of five. But horribly depressing for a mother of two or even one.
I would have gone on with my tirade over the injustice of it all. Hoping that at the end of it, a solution would have been reached, one I hope my conscience will easily accept and live with.
But a cry from the cot was like a cry from the wilderness.
Baby Nina hungrily latches on and closes her eyes. For a brief moment, she smiles…a contented smile.
And man, I thought, what have I been thinking?!? 🙂